Say What You Mean.

I know, I know. It's been a while.

Wouldn't it be great if we could just say what we mean? Most of the time, we can with our families or our best friends...but never the opposite sex, really, when dating is introduced into the picture. Even if a serious relationship isn't what you're looking for, there is still an amount of wishy-washiness involved. One moment, it's "Oh, I like you and I'll call you" and the next minute, you're wondering why your phone hasn't rang for a week. What is the deal? Why do we enjoy playing these games?

Is it always this way, I wonder? Even when you get older, is an amount of discreteness required? Why is it so unnacceptable for us to just come out and say either , "Hey, let's just hang out, see where it goes." Or, "Hey, I like you, and I want this to go somewhere important." Either way, serious or not serious, why don't we make our intentions known? Is it because we're afraid the other person won't have those same intentions? Or is it just because we have fun with these games we play with each other?

Well, it's just dumb.

Honesty never killed anybody. I don't understand why honesty scares ppl away from each other. Let me tell you, if I'm not interested in someone, or if I have different intentions than he does, I won't be a bitch about it, but I will be honest. Making someone have false expectations of you is just plain wrong.

I know this sounds like I am having these problems myself, but I assure you, it's not to this bad of an extreme. Yeah, there's a guy I know that I like to hang out with, but that's all I think of him for now. He, for some reason, is a little wishy-washy with things, and I suppose isn't quite sure what he wants. He's a pretty cool person, so this back and forth thing within a week of hanging out with him is a little annoying to say the least. Especially when I've been hanging back, just chilling, cause I am too busy to make a big deal out of anything. .. So, does this not being honest, wishy-washy thing that ppl do make these ppl deushbags, or are they really good ppl that like to be up one minute and down the next?

And you know, I know plenty of ppl who played these types of games with each other when they first met and they're now happily married or happily dating for a while. But when I think about it, if I'm gonna put my time into committing to someone, do I want this person to be all up and down? Is it always this way, even with the love of your life.

Not that I am looking for the love of my life, cause I definitely do NOT want to finish up that chapter of my life at the moment, but still....

Chill out dude, I just wanna hang out once in a while cause I think you're cool and you think I'm cool.

But can I say that? Oh no. That's not following the rules of the game. I've gotta sit back and play it cool with hopes that my frustrations and his wishy-washiness will simmer down enough to have a good time.

But this doesn't just apply to relationships, I don't think. It's everything. Work and school, daily life-to-life. Saving face never solved any problems, so why do we do this? As I get older, I don't. I cherish honesty with ppl. Ppl will always respect you -- even if they don't necessarily like you-- if they always know where they stand with you.

There is a reason for everything, and I guess that includes non-honesty, beating around the bush things. But still, it makes you wonder, WHY? it's such a waste of time to beat around the bush, you know?